- be thin
- give birth
- cook for you
- have long hair
- wear makeup
- have sex with you
- be feminine
- be graceful
- be fashionable
- wear pink
- love men
- be the media’s idea of perfection
- listen to your bullshit
- have a vagina
This is very true, but it’s important to remember that if a woman is feminine, graceful, shaves, diets, wears make up, or does any of these things in the list, it doesn’t make her a slave to patriarchy or any less of a feminist than you.
Therefore lift your drooping hands and strengthen your weak knees, and make straight paths for your feet, so that what is lame may not be put out of joint but rather be healed.
Strive for peace with everyone,
and for the holiness without which no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no “root of bitterness” springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled.."
— Hebrews 12:12-15
"It happens to everyone as they grow up. You find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you’ve known forever don’t see things the way you do. So you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on."
— Nicholas Sparks (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
exactly where I’m at right now.
new job. new school semester. new boyfriend. new financial expenses. new expectations. new pressures.
i’ve been trying so hard to balance my million new responsibilities while keeping the people close to me satisfied… but it’s not working. i can’t constantly sacrifice myself for others’ past expectations and comfort. it’s never going to be good enough and i’m quickly running myself down.
things change, it’s part of life.
my friendship dynamics may look different now that i’m in my first romantic relationship; sleep, school, and work are higher priorities than before; and i’m just going to have less time to hangout.
but my love and loyalty to my friends, church, and family hasn’t lessened, it never will. in fact, it’s only strengthened through this pressure i’m enduring. I value those in my life now more than ever. what has changed, though, is the amount of time and energy i have to show that love.
things are different. but i’m the same me. things are scary, people are extra sensitive, and balance is still in progress. negative assumptions of my loyalties because of these changes could do some serious damage, as it has already.
i believe things will work it self out and become less foreign with time.
but until then, patience, support, and grace are vital to harmony, now more than ever. i pray that those attributes would be cultivated and reciprocated in my life and those in it, so as to not lose what has been accomplished so far, but to steadily increase the love that is shared and needed.
"That’s what real love amounts to - letting a person be what he really is. Most people love you for who you pretend to be."
— Jim Morrison (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
i walk into Cold Stone Creamery with swollen eyes and a sad step. It was obvious that i had just finished a good cry. the guy behind the counter must have felt bad for me because he served me the most beautiful, overflowing bowl of ice cream that i’ve ever devoured. i walked out of that shop with a little, large bowl of comfort that things will float on alright.